Why Nobody Seems to Care

You know what I figured out yesterday? I came to realize that the reason nobody seems to care is because they aren’t at a crisis point in their lives. I have had several crisis points in mine, where I reach the end of my rope and look back over where I’ve been and see noting to show for where I am now. I feel like no matter what I do, nothing works or seems to help.

The other day, my wife and I were hanging with a friend I’ve known for over a decade, and she’s been having problems with her new husband. Nothing horrible, just some things weren’t clicking into place as easily as they should after a year of marriage. As we talked with her, the deeper issue came to light, and we realized that these surface problems are a result of a fear of abandonment.

As we went further in, our friend was baling. I let her know that she is broken, as we all are, but that is the precise reason Christ came for us; so that we might be made whole again, then go on to live life to the fullest. She made a breakthrough that day, and she wanted me to do the same thing with her husband.

Only two problems with that. I don’t know him as well as I know her, and he doesn’t want me to. Oh, we’re friends and get along pretty well. There are no feelings between his wife and I and he knows it. What I mean to say is that he is not at a crisis point, therefore does not need nor want the ‘help.’ The thing is, most people, especially church goers, are at the same place.

I wish desperately for a band of brothers and sisters in Christ to pray with, have fun with, mourn with and grow with, but it has not come to pass. I do know of many others in my life that are not satisfied with what the Church offers, and don’t know where to find the truth, or answers, but are also waiting for another who’s been trained in the same way that the one who let them down were trained.

Why is it that we have to keep looking to someone who has “official” training? Weren’t those who looked at Jesus with scorn? I don’t want to rule the world or a church for that matter, but would it kill anyone to listen to what I have to say? Then again, those I have tried to explain it to, find the whole meaning of existence and mandate from God so underwhelming that they just blow it off.

Part of me just wants to say ‘screw them’ and move on, but another part, a stronger part of me wants to give nothing but love to them so that when the time comes, I or another can be there for them in the name of Christ, so that they can truly see. The truth is simplistic in it’s complexity.